Here are a few testimonies from participants who came for support.
This class has given me the freedom to make my life easier. I was so over whelmed the first day I meet Debbie, she was sent from God to help me. I started crying and, just talking to someone that knew what I was going through, has made a big difference in my life. I am a stronger and more compasionnate person to my husband and family.
This class has tough me that it's O.K. to say no and that I need to have alone time to decompress. This clas has also showed me what I need for resources and to get help, not just for my husband but for myself also. I have learned different way of dealing with any problem that may come up and if I can't deal with it, there are people I can call that will help me through it. Taking this class is the best thing I ever did !
- Jayne Lefebvre -
Two years ago, my husband was diagnosed with a progressive degenerative disease. The first eighteen months were extremely difficult. Friends and family were supportive and did their best to help. However, given the challenges my husband was facing, I felt I had to always be strong and positive. Given his situation, how could i talk about how my life has changed? I could not give voice to the fears I had for our future. Yet, those fears were real.
I realized I would need help if I was to survive our future with this wretched disease. I entered the caregivers support group and then the workshops on how to avoid burnout. Under the gentle guidance of our , Debbie Neumann, I learned new approches to use when facing challenges, coping mechanisms for difficult situations and alternative philosophical views. The monthly meetings with others in similar situations led me to appreciate the value of a support group, and the benefits to be had through sharing experiences with others. The support group, and the burnout workshops, have provided me with tools for surviving the future. We are fortunate to have this service available to our community and to have access to the wisdom of our intervener, Debbie Neumann.
I am thankful to have had the chance to work with Debbie and to be part of the support group.
- P -
I am the caregiver for my husband who has a degenerate disease with no cure. As the challenges of looking after him increased I knew I had to talk with others “in the same boat”. Even with the support of family & friends I still felt alone. When I heard of the Care-givers workshops I joined not knowing what I would learn. “Caregiving Without Burnout” taught me many excellent lessons. Through sessions on guilt, needs & rights, along with choices I came to realize that I couldn’t cure his disease or change his pain & frustrations, I could only change myself to make life bearable for myself & therefore him.
By searching deep within myself & being open to others, sharing concerns & ideas change came about. I now have a new outlook as we journey on – not looking back, not looking ahead but trying to make the best of everyday.
I felt loved & supported through these sessions, I am not alone. I realize I still have alot to learn & will continue accepting the resources available to me with a thankful heart. I would highly recommend anyone in a caregivers role to seek this excellent support given by Les Aidants Naturels.
- A -
My situation was a bit different from the the others' who participated to the workshop. My husband suffers from a chronic illness, but he is still able to work for now. This workshop gave me hope that when his condition changes, I will better prepared to face the unknown. The fear of the unknown, of being alone, and of having to do everything by yourself ; that is what is the most difficult for people.
This workshop gave me the peace of mind to know that we do not have to face it all alone, that there is a lot of help around us. We should not feel guilty of asking for help. Also I have to think of myself; if I am exhausted or burned-out, I will not be very helpful to my loved one.
Debbie ( intervener) also gave us tools to see further than our situation. We have to think differently and be more attentive. "Working alone is good, but is better."
This workshop has brought together people with very different situations, it made us realize that we live changes in our life (not by choice) and gave us the chance to talk with others without being judged. Debbie greeted us in a warm and comforting atmosphere, it made me feel like I was someone special.
- G -